What are you holding on to? What has been holding you back from becoming your best self? Why are you a victim of this, and why do you choose to stay there?
Today’s blog post is about something we all struggle with, cutting out the nonsense that does not serve us in any way. Whether that would be the wrong people, pointless distractions, toxic habits, and vices we have no control over. Below I will cover four things you must cut out instantly that id stopping you from being better within yourself;
1 – Toxic Friends / Negative People / People You Have Nothing in Common With
Toxic or negative is subjective depending on the individual it may concern. However, toxic friends will not serve you well in any area of life. They could even deter you from being better, possibly influencing you to hate yourself or constantly seeing them as more important. If you have a friend who constantly insults you or puts you down and calls it joking, that is someone you need to cut out from your environment. Or one who is rude or treats others with ill respect. “But he/she is not like that with me” you wait; your time will come.
Negative people are not fun to be around. I know this because I was once that negative person that few people would avoid. I didn’t understand it back then, but now I’m older and wiser, looking back on how negatively I viewed things; who could blame those certain people for dissociating with me? Nobody needs to be around someone who views life or themselves as such; it’ll only soon rub off on you. If someone is negative and miserable, it is kind to want to help them, but if they only desire to stay there, you may want to cut them out.
Like-mindedness is crucial in relationships.
This does not mean you and your friends or associates have everything in common, but you should find people that you have something in common with. Something respectful or purposeful. For example, a love for fitness and health, personal development, the desire to want to learn more about money or levelling up. Even something like similar occupations or career industries. Those things make a world of difference. I can’t tell you how exhausting it is talking to or dealing with someone constantly who is not interested in similar things I am, not even one thing? Then what are we talking about?
2- Unproductive Habits
Binge-watching multiple Netflix series, gaming, alcohol consumption, junk food and sugary snack consumption are a few examples of unproductive habits that come to mind. Each of these habits, though may feel good in the short term, in the long term can have its causes such as a lack of good sleep, health problems and illnesses. If any of this, is you? Cut it out. However, if you enjoy these things in moderation, it’s not the worst.
3 – Not being in control
No way am I suggesting you need to become your own God because no matter what, you cannot control everything. However, I mean being in control and taking that on with authority. Don’t get stuck in spaces and habits of mediocrity or contentment with the “I can’t help it” excuse. Yes, you can help it; why can’t you help yourself? Who else is going to do it for you? Be in control of what you do in your spare time, your priorities, your money, your health, your fitness, and the things you feed your mind, body, and soul. I believe with all I have said about cutting out certain things, it all starts with a decision. Deciding that “I won’t do that again” is enough to put forces in motion. If you’ve lacked self-control, work on that and start by learning to take authority and make decisions on little things. Next time a friend asks, “What do you want to do tonight?” don’t just say, “I don’t know”. Allow yourself to be in control.
4 – Being Judgemental
Nobody likes to be judged. I have been on both ends where I have been judged and have heavily passed judgement onto others. Whether that’d be cultures, individuals, or groups. I have grown to have more of an open-minded approach than before. I also realise being judgemental does not make the other person or cause of judgement the problem but rather myself. What is so wrong with me that it causes me to see others as bad, harmful, or wrong? Being judgemental often closes you off to many people and shuns opportunities to learn and grow in understanding, wisdom and knowledge. I had to do a lot of work to understand them and not be judgemental; of course, I am not perfect, but we try. I also blame society as it forces us to judge one another from different social classes and backgrounds, cultures, and religious beliefs all serve as a cause for division and judgement. Being judgemental doesn’t do any good; in most cases, it makes you unapproachable.
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