More Things I Have Learnt In My 20s

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In my mid-20s, there are a few things I can look back on and see as lessons, things that shape me to be better and contribute faithfully to my evolution and betterment. I admit that a lot of the time, there is a whole rush and desire for most millennials, including myself, to have it all together and to be somewhat the perfect being in such aspects. Quite crazy, right? I firmly believe that experiences make us better and teach us more than avoiding certain things or being led by people rather than our instincts. In today’s post, I will share a few things that I have currently learnt in my 20’s. This is an update or sequal to a previous post I wrote a while ago

1-It’s Okay To Make Mistakes

I’m not perfect, and nobody is. Whether that be your teacher, parents, or CEO, we all make more mistakes than we can count. Lord knows I’ve made my fair share of them and will continue to do so. The one thing about making mistakes is learning from them and doing better next time. I’m sure we’ve all had our failures and downfalls, some probably being down to bad choices. But, we don’t have to stay stuck, feeling low for our mistakes. We can learn from them and do better even in how we may have treated a loved one. With mistakes, it’s what you do afterwards that makes all the difference.

2-Nobody Is An Expert On YOUR Life

Read that again. The keyword is ‘your’. So, as you live, grow, and you navigate through your journey, remember that nobody holds the key to your life. Spiritually I believe God is the ultimate expert at best. There is nothing wrong with taking advice, guidance, or counselling from a friend; a loved one, a teacher or an advisor. We all need help in this life at some moments. We weren’t created to do everything and exist entirely alone. However, I will say that one thing I’ve realised is that many people, from parents to those in high places above you, seem to think they know everything about everything, including what you should do with your life. Nobody can give you those answers entirely, and a lot of times, it’s all just great ideas. Learn to listen to your gut instinct or your spirit being as I like to think of it. And not everything that comes as wisdom is entirely applicable or wise fitting for you; it may suit somebody else’s destiny or path ahead.

3-Love Yours

Gratitude and contentment in the things that you do have can be so beneficial for one’s soul. In my view, that’s what loving yours means—being grateful for the few friends you have even though some other person may have a billion—or being grateful for the few pairs of sneakers that you do have even if they’re not the latest Jordan’s or designers—being grateful for the job you have, even though it may not be your dream job, or pay the income you want. Life is full of many great things that we can all experience, some of which we may never get to experience for various reasons. But at the end of the day, while you have your basic needs met, especially if you’re not living in a country or land in complete turmoil, learn to love yours.

4-Take Risks & Chances

I wouldn’t pride myself as the biggest risk-taker in life, but I have had my fair share of failures from small experiments and projects that I have tried. Before I started blogging more consistently on this platform, I used to customise sneakers as a brand/business. Doing that taught me many things and pushed me in various ways to put myself out there in the world and prove my value to people. Whilst that business/brand and the passion was short-lived, I learnt from it, and it taught me a lot about myself. I even had the experience of trying to market and promote my brand by vending at Sneaker Con. An experience I would never forget. Though it can be scary to try something new or take a chance, I feel that it is necessary to serve you well whilst young. After all, what do you have to lose? If it doesn’t work, back to the drawing board, and you try something else.

Whilst you are young, and chances are you may not have a family or major responsibilities, it’s best to get at them whilst you can. What’s the one thing you’ve thought of that you want to do? It doesn’t have to be something big. Just go for it. Of course, whilst it’s fun to roll the dice and take risks, I would advise at times to be more calculated when you can be. You should take time to plan and have a bit of a strategy before just doing anyhow.

5-Just Be Yourself, Isn’t Always Good Enough

How often has someone always said, “Just be yourself. You’re perfect as you are; it’s their loss”. Whilst such terms can be encouraging and empowering, I think one thing that has stood out to me, especially more recently, is that being yourself isn’t always enough. Yes, you’re awesome, and everybody is wonderful in their way, but like it or not, sometimes life puts us in certain situations where we have to adjust. Have to try and adapt and tap into being better in different ways. For example, if you know you’re a loud person and can be overly talkative, whilst that isn’t always a bad thing, it is not everywhere, and with everybody, you can do that at or with. You sometimes have to tone it down or work on yourself to control your speech and tone of communication. Or if you want a certain type of person to like you, the kind of person you are might not attract them. You may need to work on improving and demonstrating your value. It’s just life, don’t get mad about it.

Whether you’re in your teens or late 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s and reading this, I hope this post is something you can learn from. So, if you’re someone in any of those brackets I’ve mentioned, what are a few lessons you’ve learned? Comment down below as I’d love to learn from you also.

Thanks For Reading

Sincerely Yours


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14 thoughts on “More Things I Have Learnt In My 20s

  1. Great piece, Darren Owen.


  2. Great piece, Darren Owen.

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    1. Thank you for your lovely comment and your continued support ☺️


  3. spiritualfantasia June 14, 2021 — 5:15 am

    I’m 20! I love the last point you made, it provides the perspective that our worth is inherent yet not everyone will see it. I suppose a lesson I’ve learned is to not be afraid to let go of what doesn’t serve me! Familiarity is comfortable, but growth will bring me new opportunities, experiences, and fulfillment. 🙂

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    1. Hello Fantasia, thanks for reading and for your input. It’s amazing the lessons you’ve learned in 20years of life so far. I like the bit about not being afraid to let go, very important! I’m learning to start getting uncomfortable, even though it’s hard the growth is a blessing.

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      1. spiritualfantasia June 14, 2021 — 7:00 pm

        Hi Darren, it’s Linda. 🙂 It’s awesome to talk to someone who’s been through there 20s! That’s a beautiful learning journey to be on. There is so much life experience to be had outside our comfort zones. I agree that it’s uncomfortable, change is tough!

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      2. My mistake, sorry Linda. Yeah I’m still in my 20s 😅. I’m 26 at the moment but yes, it’s been a journey for sure. Of course! I agree there’s more to life on the other side of that! I like change at times, it’s good for the soul

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      3. spiritualfantasia June 15, 2021 — 5:49 am

        Haha, still have a bit of 20s left to experience! I felt that, good for the soul. Consciousness likes to expand, whether that’s a result of change or something else! 🙂

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  4. I didn’t take risk until my 30’s. I wish I would have taken risk sooner. I wish I would have listen to my heart and not other people.

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    1. That’s not so bad at least you did at some point. The feeling of regret in that sense is hard to swallow. That’s another thing that can stunt growth is letting other people get in your head. Nobody is an expert at your life. You can never go wrong listening to your heart. At least you know now. Thanks for sharing Colleen ☺️


  5. This was such a good read Darren. I’m slowly embracing the idea of taking more risks and chances , in the hope that it all pays off and if it doesn’t I can say I have tried 😊

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting Edmay ☺️. That’s it!! That’s the right spirit, especially whilst we’re young. There’s more time to bounce back even if the risks don’t pay off! I known you’ll do great! Keep taking risks and living!


  6. Learning to adjust yourself is definitely a skill worth learning.

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    1. I agree with you. Life personally forced me to adapt 😂😅😅. Thanks for your comment ☺️


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